The Benefits of Coerced Orgasms, from the Mistress POV
Control
At the heart of any femdom practice is the promise of gaining control over our submissive, and coerced orgasms provides an excellent opportunity to do exactly that. Giving me the power to decide if and when to stop… or to just keep going, layering sensation upon sensation until you beg me to stop is such an aphrodisiac to me. I love being a femdom cocktease, if you want to know the truth of the matter. The pleasure I receive from being fully empowered, deified to lord over them, is absolutely indescribable- but I will do my very best to describe it anyways. So imagine that feeling you have both when you give someone a present and the feeling you get when you win against an opponent, combine them and then make it like 100x stronger and you will come close to the feeling I get when coercing some poor sweet subby into just one more edge, or just one last orgasm, I promise. I am usually fucking drenched just from the mindfuck of it all. Speaking of which…. the next two combined offer a fantastic little mindfuck for me to enjoy.
Granting Pleasure
Now let it never be said that Femdoms don’t love pleasing you. We very much do- most Femdoms that I know really enjoy giving a submissive exactly what they need and crave. We are humanists, in the words of Al Pacino. Its just that what our subbies need is a bit different from the normies. So being so in control and able to bestow pleasure upon my submissives is a special treat for me for when they have been good for me, when they spoil me and allow me to have all the cock control I can take.
Schadenfreude
This is the pleasure that one receives from the suffering of another, and mean as it may be, it deserves a fucking spot on our list, quite frankly. There is a sense in taking pleasure from the unique experience of pleasure/pain received from sharp arousal that I experience as the orchestrator of the coerced orgasm. As much as it may not be ladylike to admit, it is certainly nevertheless true that I do experience a bit of schadenfreude when it comes to doling out waves of sharp pleasure so much so it overcomes my sweet submissive. I think its safe to assume that is the sadist in me. But coerced orgasms offer such a delightful sadistic lean in, as its giving you pleasure…but at a price. So the ability to offer you pleasure while at the same time fulfilling my suffering kink is a really satisfying experience for me.
Sacrifice/Sweat Equity
And I really appreciate it when my submissives seek to give me what I need, when I am giving them what they need. The fact that you are sacrificing for me turns into an act of service, a sweat and tears equity in our relationship, make me feel appreciated and valued. Thats right- your obedience feeds me, loves. Because you are prioritizing my pleasure over your own selfish comfort, your sacrifice has a higher value than if you were giving me something that costs you nothing. You want your mistress, or your playmate as it were, to feel appreciated, dont you?
Role Reversal
Because of the rigid gender roles we have had through most of time in most societies, a submissive man being topped by a Dominant woman is a role reversal. And if you have followed me for any length of time, you’ll know that there’s nothing I like more than a bit of role reversal play. I think that its a downright good time, but more than that, I believe this type of subversive play helps deconstruct harmful stereotypes and open up more ways for humans to being, as it were. I think that breaking up these gendered expectations is a great way to expand the role, influence and power of women.
The Benefits of Coerced Orgasms, from the subby POV
Pleasure play
Well, the first benefit that I am going to discuss is all the pleasure to be had with coerced orgasms. As mentioned earlier, I think a prime benefit to this type of play is moving past your self imposed pleasure boundaries. I think a lot of people become very lazy when it comes to pleasure- we become so focused on getting to the orgasm we forget that the parts we are skipping over are the literal good bits. We can extend our pleasure indefinitely with edging and coerced orgasms, biology permitting gents. I will say that some guys have a harder time than others in their refractory period- but more on that in a bit. But I do think we can at least begin working on your next orgasm shortly after your initial release.
Improving performance
Mastering coerced orgasms has the ability to shorten your refractory period and improve your performance. In addition, edging, gooning and all the cock teasing activities that we typically do within a coerced orgasm session will make you last longer, harder. And that doesn’t just improve and extend the amount of time you can experience pleasure- it can change the way you use your body to bring someone else pleasure too. And isn’t that worth just a little discomfort?
Sacrifice for Mistress
Now for those who are more service oriented, this is where you serve through sacrifice. By offering up the control, power, and sacrifice we women deserve, you are meeting our needs as a good submissive should. I give you what you need, and you give me what I need, yes? That’s the deal we made through our power exchange, right? I scratch your back, you scratch mine? But this is also to the benefit of the subby, too- this sacrifice, this giving of themselves. I honestly think one of the best things I do for my subbies is to provide them a place to put all their reverent feelings for women, all their loving feelings focused on me. It feels good to give love, doesn’t it? It feels good to have someone to pour all of yourself into, and thats what I offer for my subbies.
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