Considering how easy it is to accidentally ruin your own orgasm, you’d think doing so on purpose would be easy, wouldn’t you? Well, I’ve had a fair number of fellas tell me that they just can’t manage to ruin themselves! I suspect that they’re probably too into the pleasure of stroking, and not paying attention, so they “accidentally” stroke right through the whole ejaculation/orgasm. That simply won’t do, so I’ve compiled some of the best ways to ruin your orgasm, so you, too, can enjoy the lingering arousal and full-body awareness of a really good ruined O.
Best Ways To Ruin Your Orgasm
In order to ruin your orgasm you need to start by developing the body awareness neccessary to tell when you’re about to orgasm. This is why orgasm edging is vital! The number one best way to ruin your own orgasm is to edge until you pop, and take your hand away while dribbling your ejaculate. Every time you get close to cumming, stop stroking, but keep on doing whatever else you were doing! Watching porn? Keep your eyes glued to the screen. Tweaking your nipples? Carry on! Rolling your hips as if you were fucking yourself on a nice big cock (strapon or biological, doesn’t matter)? Hump those hips up and down until you ruin yourself.
Edging To Ruin
If you have trouble telling when you’re about to cum, first up, check with your healthcare provider because that could be a sign you’ve got an underlying condition that needs some attention. After that though, work on your edging technique. For the terminally numb, unaware, or otherwise blocked from feeling that tell-tale tingle of an oncoming orgasm, count your strokes. Every fifteen strokes, pause and check in with yourself. If that’s not enough stimulation to get you where you want to be, set a timer or use a stopwatch. Pause your masturbation every thirty seconds, or every minute, and do a little internal inventory to teach yourself the body awareness you need for good edging. If you feel an orgasm cresting, definitely stop jerking off!
Toys To The Rescue
If ceasing your masturbation every time you get close to your orgasm is only causing you deep frustration, or if you keep losing your erection, it’s time to bring in some support. Sex Toys can help you maintain a certain level of arousal without tipping you into a full orgasm; they can also help you with the post ruined orgasm fun! Cock rings can be used to maintain an erection no matter what. Make sure your ring fits snugly, but not too tight. If it can slide off your erect cock, that’s more of a masturbation sleeve than a cock ring, so go down in size until it fits right. You may also want to invest in a vibrating toy for your prostate. I’m a fan of a hands-free experience, which is why the Aneros is a perennial favorite of mine. Check out the Edge 2 from Lovense for a real mind-blowing fun toy, too. A little direct prostate massage can help you ruin your orgasm, plus, it’s a lot of fun and feels good.
Put It All Together
The best ways to ruin your own orgasm involves all the tips I’ve given you here. Reducing your stimulation to the bare minimum, but maintaining the fantasy or roleplay that’s gotten you so turned on, adding different stimulation to other erogenous zones, and, of course, edging repeatedly until you lose control and pop like an overinflated balloon, when done in concert will lead to a ruined orgasm. If you’re still having trouble ruining your own orgasm, give me a call. I’m always happy to help you troubleshoot, to guide your masturbation, and to encourage you to ruin that orgasm for me. If you do it right, I bet I can make you cum twice, and really introduce you to the fun of a ruined orgasm.
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